I was chatting with a friend yesterday…
She isn’t looking forward to Valentine’s Day this year. Mostly it’s due to last year’s train wreck.
She works in an office with several other women. On Valentines Day, nearly everyone got a nice arrangement of flowers from their husband — some were gorgeous.
The day ticked by… Read more…
Yesterday a reader sent me an email with the following question: ”I’m having an affair and I love my girlfriend, but I don’t want to abandon my family. What should I do?”
OK, time to step back from my emotions and try to answer this question from an objective perspective.
If you’re having an affair, you really have three choices. None of these choices is good. Unfortunately, you’ve already made a monumental bad choice, and there will be consequences for that choice. However, I’ll try to detail the three different paths below. Read more…
I see this all the time.
One partner begins looking into their spouse’s behavior, and they are accused of being controlling or that they don’t trust their partner. Sometimes this might be true. There are other times when it’s not only OK to dig a bit, but it’s critical for the survival of your marriage.
How do you know when to dig and when to give your spouse space? Read more…
For years, everything has seemed OK in your marriage. Sure, you’ve had a few issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. Your marriage is pretty normal.
However, you sense a sudden change. You think, “my husband seems distant.” Without any real reason you can see, your husband seems emotionally distant. When you’re together, it’s almost as if he’s not “into” the moment. He seems closed-off and won’t talk about anything important. Read more…
Trust in a marriage is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Open communication is built on a foundation of trust, and trust increases with communication. They really build on each other within a marriage. If you don’t trust your spouse, you’re far more likely to be careful of the words you use. You might even hold back things that you should tell them out of uncertainty on how they’re react. However, once the trust is broken, it will take some work to rebuild it, and that’s where disclosure comes in. Read more…
Some of the worst ongoing fights in a marriage can be a result of inequalities in the marriage. These battles are often the ones that rise up over and over again – sometimes in circumstances that have nothing to do with the original argument. They’re also often the things that can be brought back up for years.
Let me give you some examples. Read more…