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Should You Stay Married If You’re Not in Love Anymore? My Advice Based on Experience

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We often hear the expression ‘I’m not in love any more‘ but what exactly does that mean? Initially when we ‘fall in love’ it is a feeling of euphoria and we can’t think about anything or anyone else. We become all consumed with the thought of the other person and can’t wait to see them again.

This is an exciting time in anyone’s life, but being on cloud nine cannot possibly last forever. If it did we would never get anything done, and we’d gradually wear ourselves out. But need it reach the stage where you question, should you stay married if you’re not in love anymore.

What tends to happen after a while is that you develop a mutual love and respect for each other, become close friends and want to make the other person happy. Your happiness becomes their happiness also, and you start to share the day to day happenings in your lives and learn to appreciate each other’s points of view and to know when to compromise and when to stand your ground.

Over time a deep understanding and love takes the place of the overwhelming feelings you first experienced, and, if you work at it and are lucky, your relationship grows.

Respecting each other’s opinion and points of view is all important in any relationship, and so it’s important to realize that once that respect is lost it’s very difficult to get it back.

Before you start to feel you’re not in love with your partner any more, you should ask yourself if that’s because you are unhappy with yourself, with your financial situation, or your work. If there are children in the partnership, do you feel they’ve taken over your lives and you have become strangers to one another.

Think back to when you fell in love. What has changed? Have you both settled into a rut and become bored with each other? Does this necessarily mean you don’t love one another any more?

The tedium of everyday life can take away all our romantic notions of what our lives should be about. By doing things together and talking about your feelings and fears, sometimes it can start to bring back that closeness you once had.

If you don’t eat and drink you will die. The same can be said for a partnership. If you don’t keep one another’s interest alive by sharing things and doing things together your love will wither and die. If you lose sight of what is important to make your relationship stay fresh and fun, or if you let appearance and sense of humor go you will lose one another.

At least try to see where it went wrong before you finally say you no longer love your partner and give up on your marriage.

It’s sometimes easy to give up on something when all it takes is a little time and effort and you’ll be glad you tried again. Love is a strange thing, it can be exciting it’s true, but it can also be just wanting to be in the same room as someone.

If you think back to when you first met, your love grew over time. When you first dated, you discovered the ways you connected, like friends would do. Of course, there was also passion, but the friendship is what really starts building a lasting connection. Often when these connections are gone, we tend to think it’s our love that’s faded.

The book, Save the Marriage, has some steps that anyone can take to start rebuilding these basic connections that make a marriage strong. Dr. Baucom also addresses the pitfalls – the things you shouldn’t say or do… things that will push your spouse further away. I highly recommend this book if you’d like to rediscover the love in your marriage… or even just within yourself.

For likely less than one session with a marriage counselor, Dr. Baucom’s book will walk you through months of counseling. Not only that, but right now he’s throwing in a quick-start guide to help you begin to turn things around today as well as several other valuable resources. I’ve looked at dozens of courses, guides, and books on restoring love in a marriage, and this is the only one I recommend. Click here to read more about it…

You’ll probably find that your marriage not only can be saved, but can be better than it’s ever been.

 

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Your Husband – How Do You Know If He Still Loves You?

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Some women are lucky enough never to have to ask the question, “how do I know if my husband still loves me?” However, there are many men who find it difficult to express their feelings in words and this can lead to his partner feeling unsure of his love for her.

As time goes by in a marriage, a man often doesn’t think it necessary to tell his wife how much he loves her. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s lost interest, it’s just that men think it unnecessary to keep reassuring their spouse how much they mean to them.

Women generally are far more outgoing in expressing themselves and can’t understand why men aren’t the same, but men are generally far more reserved.

By taking care of his family and providing for them, a man is showing his love for them in the best way he can. He may not necessarily always say what you want to hear, but he will show it in the things he does for you and the children and in little gestures of affection.

If he still wants to be with you and do things together then he obviously still has the love for you or he would make excuses and not be around so much.

If you feel you’re losing his affection then try to understand what’s causing him to be distracted and do something about it. He may be preoccupied with problems at work, in which case it helps to have someone to talk it over with.

Don’t forget to greet him when he comes home with enthusiasm and a smile. How nice to open the door to a warm welcome rather than a tired and grumpy one. If you want to keep your husband’s love you have to make the home a haven at the end of the day for both of you. A happy atmosphere makes so much difference to your soul, and helps you to overcome so many things in life.

Love grows and deepens when you share things together and respect each other’s need for space. Marriage doesn’t mean you have to be in each other’s pockets all the time. Different activities and interests keep a marriage alive and make it grow.

Realizing when your husband is worried or unhappy means you care about him, and the same applies in reverse. If your husband doesn’t see when you’re unwell or feeling tired, then something is missing in your relationship and it’s time to rectify it.

Don’t take him for granted, but don’t become part of the furniture in his life either. Love has to be fed or it will die and if you are endeavouring to keep the marriage harmonious then his love will continue to thrive. You will see this in the way he looks at you, and in the things he does for you.

Unfortunately, when it starts feeling like your husband is distant, it can be hard to find ways to connect. What makes it worse is when you start questioning your own feelings towards him, too. How do you know if he still loves you? Sometimes you have to take your relationship back to its beginnings. Begin working on rebuilding a friendship and the love will soon blossom again.

In the book, Save the Marriage, Dr. Baucom talks about exactly these things. He gives some great advice on what to do to start rebuilding your marriage from its foundations without doing anything that could cause the rifts in your marriage to grow. If you feel like things just keep getting worse, I highly recommend this book as a way for you to start finding traction.

At likely less than the cost of a single session with a marriage counselor, this book can replace months of sessions. He also sends a quick-start-guide so you can hit the ground running, as well as guides that will teach you how to “fight” the right way and a guide of the things not to do. With all he includes, it’s really a bargain.

I’ve looked at dozens of resources, and Dr. Baucom’s is the only one I recommend. Click here for more information…

 

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Marriage to Save, Family to Keep

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When two people are starting to get really sick of each other, the hardest part about contemplating about a divorce is when they realize what will happen to their kids. If you now find yourself in a similar situation, deciding whether to leave your troubled marriage or not, try to think things through first.

Sure you may have a litany of reasons why the marriage is not working, but amidst all the complaining and whining, did you ever find yourself thinking about why it should still be saved? There really need not be a huge reason for it but as long as you have a reason. Don’t you think it is still definitely worth a shot? To help you think things over more clearly, here are things that will help you figure out how to go about saving your marriage.

To help you while you are contemplating how to save a marriage, try to first clear your head of any anger and ill feelings that you may have been harboring towards your spouse. This will help you to better focus on the issues that have been plaguing your union rather than how irritated you are towards your partner. It will be definitely prove to be a whole lot easier for the two of you to work out your problems without all the negativity getting in the way.

Once you have started talking, do make sure that you really do listen to what you partner has to say. This way you will be able to see things from his or her side of the story as well.

Another thing to keep in mind when it comes to talking about a marriage to save, do make sure that when the two of you have finally reached a compromise, the two of you will definitely stick by your promises and always make a conscious effort in working out your problems – together. As two people who are in charge of keeping a family together, you two are partners and should be more open in working out whatever differences that they two of you may have.

Of course, the children should always remain one of your top concerns for keeping the marriage from falling apart but you and your spouse should also sort things out mainly because the two of you still love each other and would want to still honor the commitment to stay together through thick or thin. While yes, working things out will take a whole lot of effort from both sides, and a change in your relationship might not be simple but if you really truly care for each other and your family, then wouldn’t it all be worth it?

How to Save Marriage From a Crisis

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Many people wonder how to save marriage from a crisis. It’s not the easiest thing in the world to do but it can be done. Of course, you should be able to differentiate between good advice and really bad advice. You should make sure not to listen to all of the old wives’s tales that many people still believe in today. In this article we will cover a few troublesome mistakes that people will make when trying to save their marriage.

Misconception Number 1: When a person is biding their time and sitting around expecting the worst instead of getting up and going for it. Many people think that if they wait long enough, that the situation will eventually get better. You know as well as anyone else that you are just fooling yourself. You have to take charge and actually do something to save your marriage. Don’t just sit around, go for what you want and don’t hold back!

Misconception Number 2: Don’t lead the person on. If it is over, state this clearly and make the scenario very clear to the spouse. If there is no love left, just say so. Make the break clean and clear, it will hurt but it is better for everyone involved in the long run.

Misconception Number 3: Don’t make the mistake of thinking that every solution is cut and dried. This is the blunder that puts the axe in many marriages. If you are sure that there is a marriage to save then you have to be sure that you try everything in order to save it. Try to avoid making the mistake of thinking that all marriages are the same because they are not, every one is unique in it’s own way and therefore requires a unique solution to save it. There is no formula which can be used to determine if a marriage should be saved – even an affair can be overcome if you have the will and desire.

If you are positively sure of how you feel and you know that you want to be with this person and work things out then you should try as hard as you can to make it work. There will be sacrifices on both parts but as stated, it will be worth it in the long run. You’ll just have to take active steps in determining how to save marriage to make sure you don’t make any lasting mistakes.