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One partner begins looking into their spouse’s behavior, and they are accused of being controlling or that they don’t trust their partner. Sometimes this might be true. There are other times when it’s not only OK to dig a bit, but it’s critical for the survival of your marriage.
How do you know when to dig and when to give your spouse space? Read the rest of this entry
First, take a deep breath.
The place you’re at is one of the toughest to be in during a marriage. You are angry. You are hurt. You feel betrayed. You know that something has to change.
You are absolutely right. Something does have to change.
Either you (or you and your spouse) have to work to rebuild the trust in your relationship, or you need to take decisive action to end the marriage. As painful as it is, those are the only two real options. Sure, some think that they can simply forgive and forget, but with a wound this deep, that’s just not realistic. Infidelity is way too big of a problem to ignore or simply sweep under a rug. It will not go away on its own. Read the rest of this entry
I have come to believe that great communication or the lack of it is one of the most important factors in whether or not a marriage will survive and even in saving a marriage. Yes, trust is also at the top of the list, however, over and over I’ve seen where trust is broken after communication starts breaking down. Let me give you a real-world scenario:
Mary loves her new husband, Bob, with all her heart. Yes, it bothers her a little bit when Bob drops his dirty socks on the bedroom floor, but she doesn’t say anything — she doesn’t want something insignificant to cause a rift in their otherwise great relationship.
Fast-forward 13 years. Read the rest of this entry
If you feel your marriage is failing the chances are you’re not communicating with your partner, or your communication is in the form of continuous arguments.
The reasons for the disintegration of a marriage are varied, but there are things you can do to try to solve the problems that have gradually made the partnership a miserable one.
The failure of a marriage is never due to one specific thing, but a culmination of things which are at first ignored until the situation becomes untenable. Should couples become strangers to one another, it’s a long hard road back to the relationship you once had.
Tackling problems at the outset can make a tremendous difference in any marriage. Talking to each other and discussing things that cause you to feel undermined or aggravated can often help to rectify a situation before it gets out of hand.
Sharing thoughts and problems means you are retaining interest in one another, and learning to cope with whatever life throws at you as a couple. Read the rest of this entry
The signs are there, and you’re aware that your partner is unhappy, or that you’re feeling miserable in the marriage. Often being aware there’s a problem makes many of us bury our heads in the sand and hope it will get better. This rarely happens and the important thing to remember is that in order to save Christian marriage it’s important to listen to each other.
Sounds simple doesn’t it? Strangely enough so many couples fall into a state of not bothering to speak to one another, and the consequence is that ultimately they become strangers.
Think back to the day you walked down the aisle and swore to God that you would love each other forever. What has changed since then to bring about your deep unhappiness in the marriage? Read the rest of this entry
