How to Save Marriage

3 Pieces of Advice I’d Give my 18-Year-Old Self if I Could

Mary — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 16:10:48 +0000

What if… Last Saturday afternoon, I stopped by the mall to do a little shopping. The crowd was light since it was a beautiful day during the off season. I wasn’t in any real hurry, so I just walked the mall, stopping by stores that looked interesting. There were moments when it felt as if...

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How to Get all the Sex You Want (or How to Want All You Get)

Mary — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:47:58 +0000

I once read about a marriage counselor who gives each partner a questionnaire before he starts their first session. One part of the survey asks about the frequency of sex in their marriage. How often do you and your spouse have sex (circle one)? All the time – Frequently – Average – Occasionally – Almost...

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“I’m having an affair and I don’t know what to do…”

Mary — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 21:15:34 +0000

Yesterday a reader sent me an email with the following question: ”I’m having an affair and I love my girlfriend, but I don’t want to abandon my family. What should I do?” OK, time to step back from my emotions and try to answer this question from an objective perspective. If you’re having an affair, you really have three...

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When is it OK to Snoop on Your Spouse?

Mary — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 19:08:45 +0000

I see this all the time. One partner begins looking into their spouse’s behavior, and they are accused of being controlling or that they don’t trust their partner. Sometimes this might be true. There are other times when it’s not only OK to dig a bit, but it’s critical for the survival of your marriage....

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My Husband Seems Distant. What Does This Mean?

Mary — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 17:43:09 +0000

For years, everything has seemed OK in your marriage. Sure, you’ve had a few issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. Your marriage is pretty normal. Suddenly your husband seems distant However, you sense a sudden change. You think, “my husband seems distant.” Without any real reason you can see, your husband seems emotionally distant....

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Disclosure -vs- Trust in a Marriage

Mary — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:35:44 +0000

Trust in a marriage is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Open communication is built on a foundation of trust, and trust increases with communication. They really build on each other within a marriage. If you don’t trust your spouse, you’re far more likely to be careful of the words you use. You might even...

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Is it Possible to Have True Equality in Marriage?

Mary — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 05:16:24 +0000

Some of the worst ongoing fights in a marriage can be a result of inequalities in the marriage. These battles are often the ones that rise up over and over again – sometimes in circumstances that have nothing to do with the original argument. They’re also often the things that can be brought back up...

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“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

Mary — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 22:06:26 +0000

These are some of the hardest words to hear from your spouse in a marriage – I love you but I’m not in love with you. Often they come as a surprise. For years your marriage has been the same. Sure, there have been problems, but nothing that might put the marriage at risk. Then,...

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How to Make My Husband Happy? Love is a Verb!

Mary — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 06:16:01 +0000

If you’re asking yourself “how to make my husband happy,” you are closer to an answer to improving your marriage than you might think. Often we tend to shift a great deal of the blame for marriage issues to our spouse instead of taking responsibility. That’s not fair nor is it realistic. It’s best to...

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The Most Important Step to Take To End Your Spouse’s Affair!

Mary — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 05:51:53 +0000

First, take a deep breath. The place you’re at is one of the toughest to be in during a marriage. You are angry. You are hurt. You feel betrayed. You know that something has to change. You are absolutely right. Something does have to change. Either you (or you and your spouse) have to work...

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