The failure of a marriage is never due to one specific thing, but a culmination of things which are at first ignored until the situation becomes untenable. Should couples become strangers to one another, it’s a long hard road back to the relationship you once had.
Tackling problems at the outset can make a tremendous difference in any marriage. Talking to each other and discussing things that cause you to feel undermined or aggravated can often help to rectify a situation before it gets out of hand.
Sharing thoughts and problems means you are retaining interest in one another, and learning to cope with whatever life throws at you as a couple.
Too often a partner blames the other for things and the problem festers until it creates arguments where neither one is prepared to listen to the other. By sitting down and listening to each other’s point of view, things often become clearer and over time compromise and tolerance help you through the most difficult problems.
Don’t expect your partner to understand how you’re feeling all the time. The chances are you can both become introverted and keep thoughts and feelings to yourself. This leads to a great chasm forming between you, which could be difficult to overcome. Don’t let that happen!
It’s essential you both have interests, shared and individual, which will keep your senses alive and give you things to talk and laugh about. Participation in things together can bring people together in spirit and body.
Sexual problems will not be solved by ignoring the problem. Once again talking about them and trying to create time for one another can help you to revitalize feelings you once had. Sex is often put on the back burner when there are financial problems, or when children come into the marriage. It’s easy to see how this can happen, but it need not become an insurmountable problem.
Try to spend time alone together, have a romantic evening now and then, and discuss your hopes, dreams and desires with each other.
Support your partner, even if you’re not convinced they are right. There are ways of steering people away from something you think is wrong without shouting and arguing. Diplomacy is always the best way to get over certain situations. So it means you have to compromise a little, so what! Do you want to have a, or would you rather live alone?
These are the things we must think about very carefully before we take the road towards divorce.
Don’t try to change the other person into what you want. Chances are you’d hate them for it in any case. After all, when you got married you loved them for what they were, so why change it.
Don’t let yourself down by not bothering to look after your appearance. Retain your dignity and self discipline and make sure you look as good as you can for your partner.
Divorce is final and can lead to loneliness. Preventing divorce can be achieved by determination and understanding. If you’re trying to prevent a divorce, but are stuck on how to proceed, click here for more advice.
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