The signs are there, and you’re aware that your partner is unhappy, or that you’re feeling miserable in the marriage. Often being aware there’s a problem makes many of us bury our heads in the sand and hope it will get better. This rarely happens and the important thing to remember is that in order to save Christian marriage it’s important to listen to each other.
Sounds simple doesn’t it? Strangely enough so many couples fall into a state of not bothering to speak to one another, and the consequence is that ultimately they become strangers.
Think back to the day you walked down the aisle and swore to God that you would love each other forever. What has changed since then to bring about your deep unhappiness in the marriage?
It’s only when you sit down together and try to work out what’s gone wrong that you can begin to both understand and solve the problems.
Whatever problems there are in a marriage, one thing is for sure, you won’t solve them unless you’re prepared to talk and listen to each other.
Try not to lose sight of the love you have for each other. No matter what your circumstances are endeavor to keep the romance alive by doing things together, enjoying each other’s bodies, and laughing and crying together. Remember God joined you, so it’s up to you to work at keeping God’s belief in your marriage alive.
Financial problems, family problems, ill health, are just a few of the things that can put a strain on any marriage. Everyone faces these problems throughout their lifetime, and they’re not always easy to resolve. Learn to be patient and tolerant, and try to keep things in perspective. Trying to understand the other person’s point of view is so important. You may never completely agree, but at least give each other the dignity of being allowed to think the way they do.
You may feel your partner is suddenly becoming attracted to someone else. Or indeed, you may feel attracted to someone else. This is quite normal. You can hardly go through life with blinders on. Naturally you will see other people you find attractive.
This doesn’t mean you should act upon it. Remember the vows you made to God, and realize also that any relationship will inevitably fall into a routine like state. The attraction is usually born out of the need for ‘something new and exciting to happen’. The fact is that you can make this happen for you with your chosen partner, you don’t need to look elsewhere.
If you let it, life can take away your dignity and self esteem. The answer is don’t let this happen to you or your marriage. Whatever life throws your way, face it together with love and the belief that God will show you the way.
Follow the path you initially began the day you stood in the church, and save Christian marriage.
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!