You are feeling your marriage has lost its spark, you’re fed up with your wife and you can’t stand all the arguments and bad feeling that seems to be the norm in your life at the moment. So you ask yourself why you shouldn’t just divorce your wife. Here are four good reasons not to.

  • It has been shown that divorced men suffer more illnesses than married men. Many divorced men become depressed and withdrawn, and as a result their work suffers. A divorced man is not always looked upon as good promotional material within a company.
  • If there are children in the marriage it can cause them extreme distress, and will almost certainly cause them difficulties within their future relationships. They will find themselves with divided loyalties and not know how to cope.
  • The financial aspect of getting divorced can be crippling, and can cause you, your wife and your children a great deal of financial hardships.
  • Divorce causes a great deal of stress all around the family concerned, and can lead to both physical and mental health problems.

Are you absolutely certain that the love you once felt and vows you took are irretrievable?

Bearing all the above points in mind, perhaps it would be wise to consider why your marriage has become impossible for you.

Financial problems are always a big strain on any marriage however perfect it may be. Nothing is insurmountable if you both love each other, and by reassessing your lifestyle and coming to terms with what is really important in your lives, i.e., each other, you can overcome and win through any financial situation as long as you do it together.
Boredom is a killer, and if you’ve allowed your marriage to settle into a rut where there are no nice surprises, and you don’t bother to look nice for each other, then you’re on a downward spiral.

If you can recognize this then you’re half way there to rectifying it. Don’t become complacent and think you don’t have to bother any more. If you want that sparkle to return then you must make it happen.

Be optimistic and talk about your future together. No matter how hopeless your situation may seem, you can turn it around if you want to. Don’t wait for things to happen, make them happen.

If you’re always arguing, then ask yourself what the arguments are about. Listen to each other and if you can’t resolve a situation then ask someone else for advice if necessary. Whatever it is that’s causing such disagreements there is always a way to sort it through. Remember you loved each other once and believe that you can again.

Marriage is a commitment which once undertaken takes a great deal of work and compromise for it to become a long lasting, mutually agreeable relationship. The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, but in the end any relationship requires a great deal of effort to keep it alive. If you divorce your wife, it means you’ve given up on what could have been a good life.

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