Before you can be happy for your husband though, you have to feel happy inside yourself. So it’s important to understand and know yourself in order to create a happy and contented home for you and your husband.
In order for you to be happy you have to enjoy the things you’re doing in your life. Work and children can take over but it’s essential you create ‘you’ time and develop your creative side. By making time to keep your hobbies alive you’ll be happier inside and it will show.
How to make my husband happy? Be affectionate
Be affectionate. There is nothing like a cuddle or a kiss to eliminate the day’s woes from your husband’s mind. If he knows he’s coming home to a loving wife and children it will cement the marriage.Keep yourself clean and attractive. Don’t let family or tiredness take away your dignity and your self esteem. Try to keep yourself looking at the very best you can so that your husband will want to be with you and can’t wait to come home.
After years of marriage this is not always easy, but it really can be achieved.
Always keep the home clean and make it a haven from the rest of the world. Keep the decor light and airy and have flowers displayed around the rooms to make them welcoming. If you can’t always afford fresh flowers, then use artificial ones and perhaps decorate them with greenery from the garden.
Take time and trouble over preparing the evening meal. A pizza is all right occasionally, but it’s hardly a romantic meal. You can plan in advance and perhaps prepare several dishes at the weekend in order to save you the time when you get home from work or from picking up the children. Think the meals through and try to choose things you know he particularly likes.
How to make my husband happy? Spend time together
Sitting eating together is important in any marriage, as you can talk over the day’s events and laugh or cry together. Talking things over and laughing at things together can make even the bad events of the day more tolerable. Laughter is very definitely the best medicine.
Sometimes it’s good to give your husband space and quiet. He doesn’t necessarily want to hear lots of girlie gossip, save that for your friends. Silence can be a sign of affection in that you are aware of his need for solitude and quiet. Respect that and leave him to relax.
When you go out together don’t make him feel embarrassed because you are talking too loud and don’t relate private things to others.
Compliment him and let him know you appreciate how hard he works for you and your family. Don’t nag him about things he hasn’t done, rather mention in a subtle way and let him end up thinking he’s remembered it himself. A simple thing no doubt, but a good way to make your husband happy.
Finally, be respectful towards your husband. Women need love in a relationship, but men need respect first. If you show him respect, the odds are he’ll show you love.
I know this advice seems like it comes from the 40′s, but being a good wife is the best first step to having your husband act like the man you want. The book, Save the Marriage, gives a step-by-step plan for rebuilding and strengthening a marriage – even if you’re the only one working on it. It explains what to do and why these things work. It’s not about reverse psychology or anything like that – it just lays out a plan for small changes you can make which will lead to making him a better husband (and a better marriage). If you’re frustrated with the way things are, I highly recommend this book. Click here for more information on how to make my husband happy…
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YOUR A PSYCHO MORON! Screw your husband! This’s 2011 not 1912!
I think this is very good advice and I’m definitely considering it. And to Moore, EXACTLY, this is 2011, and just about every marriage fails these days so if more people would actually consider what was said here, I’m sure a lot more marriages would work out. People dont respect each other these days. You, are a perfect example, if you are married i guarantee you are not happy and with that attitude you never will be. So instead of acting all 2011 and having a miserable marriage maybe you should be a little more 1940′s and have a happy marriage. After all, we dont get married to be miserable.
After 25 years together my husband hardly knows im in the same room as him .I found this page today and cried my way through the article and am stunned to find that this is what wives should expect to endure in order to keep their husbands happy !Funny thing is i have been doing all of the recommended tips to make mine happy for the whole length of our relationship.Maybe not as well as i could all the time, but as much as i could manage at the time .Where can i buy the How to keep your wife happy version of this book because our anniversary is coming up and id like to give it to him as a gift.Also wondering if the book contains the tip that says Fetch his favourite slippers between your teeth, and he might see fit to pat you on the head.
@Dani,
Do you honestly believe that the things from this article that you’ve been doing for the past 25 years caused your husband to grow distant? Or is it likely that there’s another reason behind this?
At the same time, is it possible, if not plausible, that these things you’ve been doing have helped your marriage stay together in any semblance for 25 years?
(Also, the book I recommend wasn’t written by me. His approach actually might be enlightening.)
if you asked my husband for a reason that he is distant he would say it was all my fault ? I am the reason he is miserable in every aspect of his life. We have children and he hardly notices them either. I should have been use to this behavior as my father was the same and threw out the whole family during his Crisis . Sad thing is he was 50 and we are 8years behind that. You dont know how good you have it till its gone. Just ask my dad.Wish me luck because i need it!
I found that this information was very helpful. I realize that alot of the woman that find this type of behavior unfair are the same ones who are sleeping alone or with a man that they aren’t even attracted to. I honestly believe that as time goes by, nothing has really changed but the technology. A man wants to be respected by his wife and treated like the king of his household.
This information is helpful,the unfair part is when only one partner is making all the effort ! Im very alone in bed, but Im not sleeping alone.I am very attracted to my husband and miss his attention on any level.Nothing has changed over time except technology,which provides another place to hide from the real world when you dont wish to interact with the real people in your life !All women want is to be respected and validated and made to feel special by the person they hold dear.Would be nice to be spoken to a bit more than he speaks to a shop assistant serving him that day.
What a find. A cute site. After having a pitty party for me once again. This Sunday we will have been married 29 years. Raised two boys and are empty nesters. However the intimacy in our marriage left years ago, I have tried to hang in there and stay together. Lately though, the kisses and I love you’s have gone too. As I ended my pitty party, it dawned on me that I have not been the easiest one to live with and I need to work at it and make him happy. That led me to your site. Thank you.
@Cher,
It takes two. That’s for sure.
It’s great that you see your part in making your marriage work.
Congratulations on making it through your first 29!
my husband believes that his happiness is coming home and watching tv and going on the internet. he does not trust me and gets angry really fasts for no reason sometimes. the only time i really spend with my husband is when we are sleeping as long as he`s awake its the tv and internet. please tell me how should i deal with this. he thinks i`m pesting him when i wants to spend time with him.
@Sherry-
The “not trusting” could be the most telling part of your comment.
Do you know what he’s doing on the Internet? It might be time for you to invest in a keylogger. (Here’s a link to some hardware choices, and here’s a link to a pretty good software keylogger which would be better for a laptop.)
Sometimes a spouse who’s engaging in untrustworthy behavior starts suspecting their partner of similar behavior. It’s pretty common.
Why no advice for husbands? Im supposed to go to work, come home and make sure dinner is on the table, i am looking my best, listen to what he has to say and dont talk too much, make sure i am looking my best! What about some advice for him? I dont mind doing my part to make the marriage better and i want to do that but your advice seems like a one way street where the woman is responsible for causing the problem and fixing it!
@jlw-
I hear what you’re saying, and you are right. I already have a couple of articles in mind for men, and I’ll move them towards the top of the list.
Thanks for the input!
It’s way to late to make my husband happy. He’s only happy when I’m not around, don’t talk to him, and leave him alone. Its been this way since we’ve been married 45 years now. He worked the midnight shift for 40 years, hasn’t slept with me since we were married. He moved to the basement where he set up camp the day after our wedding. So love, togetherness, intimacy, sex hasn’t happened at all. He prefers to be alone and doesn’t tune in to me or the world We never had kids, he refused to get involved. His appearance looks like an old hippy, long hair, beard, old raggedy clothes, he has no TV, computer or phone and no friends.
Amy,
You don’t have to answer, but this is the question that I think is most appropriate to your situation: How much of this personality did you see before you got married?
We tend to think that we can change someone. I know I’ve been there. I call it the broken bird syndrome. We see a broken bird and want to nurse it back to full health.
The problem is that often the “issues” that they have during courtship only intensify after marriage.
Your husband really should do some individual counselling. There’s nothing healthy about your marriage nor his behavior as you’ve described it.
Im still here . Things have improved somewhat, but its been a tough year.My husband has made more effort and realised that he is not the only one suffering ,after telling me Im 42 and deserve to be happy !Both had a little separate counselling .I again was told to put a higher price on myself , and do what i needed to make myself happy !Hard to do when all that you want is for the one you love to love you back.We as a family have a lot of catching up to do ,i.e.putting something in the bank ,to create memories that get you through the tough times and also give you something to look forward to. I am still the same wife i was before , he got it !
A, few messages to other writers: to Sherry, for many years i felt i was competing with the tv and computer for my husbands attention , wanted to and threatened to put an axe threw them , never did of course, but made my point ,cant say anything really improved ,think its a boy thing !! To jlw ,i totally agree with you ,any husband who goes to work to support the family is not excused from making an effort at home for the ones he loves , or the ones who love him .We dont switch off when we knock off ! To Amy , I hope you find happiness , you deserve it .You deserve to have your time again , i wish you well ,xxx .