Comments on: How to Make My Husband Happy – Helpful Advice for Wives http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives Teaching Couples in Trouble How to Save Marriage Quickly and Easily Mon, 11 Feb 2013 20:53:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Dani http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-341 Dani Sat, 15 Sep 2012 05:55:01 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-341 A, few messages to other writers: to Sherry, for many years i felt i was competing with the tv and computer for my husbands attention , wanted to and threatened to put an axe threw them , never did of course, but made my point ,cant say anything really improved ,think its a boy thing !! To jlw ,i totally agree with you ,any husband who goes to work to support the family is not excused from making an effort at home for the ones he loves , or the ones who love him .We dont switch off when we knock off ! To Amy , I hope you find happiness , you deserve it .You deserve to have your time again , i wish you well ,xxx .

]]> By: Dani http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-340 Dani Sat, 15 Sep 2012 05:44:12 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-340 Im still here . Things have improved somewhat, but its been a tough year.My husband has made more effort and realised that he is not the only one suffering ,after telling me Im 42 and deserve to be happy !Both had a little separate counselling .I again was told to put a higher price on myself , and do what i needed to make myself happy !Hard to do when all that you want is for the one you love to love you back.We as a family have a lot of catching up to do ,i.e.putting something in the bank ,to create memories that get you through the tough times and also give you something to look forward to. I am still the same wife i was before , he got it !

]]> By: Mary http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-287 Mary Mon, 26 Mar 2012 12:16:12 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-287 Amy,

You don’t have to answer, but this is the question that I think is most appropriate to your situation: How much of this personality did you see before you got married?

We tend to think that we can change someone. I know I’ve been there. I call it the broken bird syndrome. We see a broken bird and want to nurse it back to full health.

The problem is that often the “issues” that they have during courtship only intensify after marriage.

Your husband really should do some individual counselling. There’s nothing healthy about your marriage nor his behavior as you’ve described it.

]]> By: Amy http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-286 Amy Mon, 26 Mar 2012 03:53:05 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-286 It’s way to late to make my husband happy. He’s only happy when I’m not around, don’t talk to him, and leave him alone. Its been this way since we’ve been married 45 years now. He worked the midnight shift for 40 years, hasn’t slept with me since we were married. He moved to the basement where he set up camp the day after our wedding. So love, togetherness, intimacy, sex hasn’t happened at all. He prefers to be alone and doesn’t tune in to me or the world We never had kids, he refused to get involved. His appearance looks like an old hippy, long hair, beard, old raggedy clothes, he has no TV, computer or phone and no friends.

]]> By: Mary http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-263 Mary Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:42:29 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-263 @jlw-

I hear what you’re saying, and you are right. I already have a couple of articles in mind for men, and I’ll move them towards the top of the list.

Thanks for the input!

]]> By: jlw http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-261 jlw Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:16:57 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-261 Why no advice for husbands? Im supposed to go to work, come home and make sure dinner is on the table, i am looking my best, listen to what he has to say and dont talk too much, make sure i am looking my best! What about some advice for him? I dont mind doing my part to make the marriage better and i want to do that but your advice seems like a one way street where the woman is responsible for causing the problem and fixing it!

]]> By: Mary http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Mary Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:18:28 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-242 @Sherry-

The “not trusting” could be the most telling part of your comment.

Do you know what he’s doing on the Internet? It might be time for you to invest in a keylogger. (Here’s a link to some hardware choices, and here’s a link to a pretty good software keylogger which would be better for a laptop.)

Sometimes a spouse who’s engaging in untrustworthy behavior starts suspecting their partner of similar behavior. It’s pretty common.

]]> By: sherry http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-241 sherry Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:05:48 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-241 my husband believes that his happiness is coming home and watching tv and going on the internet. he does not trust me and gets angry really fasts for no reason sometimes. the only time i really spend with my husband is when we are sleeping as long as he`s awake its the tv and internet. please tell me how should i deal with this. he thinks i`m pesting him when i wants to spend time with him.

]]> By: Mary http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Mary Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:34:58 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-229 @Cher,

It takes two. That’s for sure.

It’s great that you see your part in making your marriage work. :)

Congratulations on making it through your first 29!

]]> By: Cher http://howtosavemarriage.org/how-to-save-marriage/how-to-make-my-husband-happy-helpful-advice-for-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-228 Cher Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:23:50 +0000 http://howtosavemarriage.org/?p=102#comment-228 What a find. A cute site. After having a pitty party for me once again. This Sunday we will have been married 29 years. Raised two boys and are empty nesters. However the intimacy in our marriage left years ago, I have tried to hang in there and stay together. Lately though, the kisses and I love you’s have gone too. As I ended my pitty party, it dawned on me that I have not been the easiest one to live with and I need to work at it and make him happy. That led me to your site. Thank you.

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