Like they always say, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. While of course, love is definitely important in keeping a couple together, it still takes more than that to keep a marriage rock solid. Especially now when there are a lot of different factors that can definitely negatively affect a relationship if the couple lets it.
Work, other people, time, distance, pet peeves – if you are not strong enough to go pass through these – and more then you are not that committed on saving your marriage. So what’s a person to do if he or she is still hell bent on ensuring that there’s still a marriage to save in the first place? Here are the top three things that you can do to save a marriage from falling apart and in the process, realizing why it is still all worth it.
Tip #1 Have a heart to heart talk: of course in order to be able to solve your marital problems, you both need to be crystal clear about all the issues that concerns your marriage. Never expect your partner to be able to read your mind. Of course, it is a romantic thing to think that your partner should know you best, but let’s face it, only you can ever know yourself best so if you want your partner to be understand you better, tell him or her how you feel – how you really, truly feel. Of course you need not go on condescending your partner by going through a litany of reasons why he or she is less than perfect. Being honest does not automatically mean that you can be rude to your partner. Think about it, how would you feel if he or she relentlessly picks on you? Not good right? So remember the golden rule, ‘don’t do unto others what you don’t want done unto you’. This way, instead of going through another fight and being all defensive, the two of you will really be able to talk instead of just having yet another argument.
Tip#2 Forgive and forget: while yes, this is easier said than done but what have you really got to lose? Do not let your pride get in the way as you are doing this not just to make your marriage work but most importantly, you are doing this for the person whom you wholeheartedly committed to spending the rest of your life with. People make mistakes and these mistakes often hurt relationships but it does not mean that you shouldn’t be able to survive through it. If you really truly care and love your partner – and if he or she really is trying to his or her best to make up for the mistakes that he or she has committed, then why won’t you give your relationship another chance? Don’t just forgive your partner, also forget about the bad things that has happened – this will make moving on and working on your marriage a whole lot easier for the both of you.
Tip #3 Creating new memories together: after all has been said, forgiven, and forgotten, it is time for you and your spouse to create a new foundation for your marriage. Instead of wallowing in the past, start creating new – and happy memories together to show that you really want you truly are sincere in making your marriage work. Even if you do not have the budget – or the time for it right now, you can still start making wonderful memories.
Why not start at home? Make your spouse breakfast in bed or compliment him or her on something – and mean it of course, or just make sure to be home by dinner time. Little things certainly mean a lot and if soon enough you’ll realize that those little things have actually become a habit – meaningful habits that will keep your bond stronger than before.
See, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to come up with ways to . Sometimes all you just need is to back up from all the animosity and chaos that is currently happening and just take a clearer look at the situation. Soon enough you will realize why working things out and staying together are definitely all worth it.
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