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How to Make My Husband Happy? Love is a Verb!

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If you’re asking yourself “how to make my husband happy,” you are closer to an answer to improving your marriage than you might think.

Often we tend to shift a great deal of the blame for marriage issues to our spouse instead of taking responsibility. That’s not fair nor is it realistic. It’s best to focus on what you can do to make your marriage better. One of the most effective steps to take is to work at making love a verb rather than a noun.

In most marriages, people tend to think of love as a thing. They are sad that they don’t seem to have as much of it as they used to. They might be sad that love is completely missing from their marriage. In addition to, “how to make my husband happy,” I often hear other questions like, “where did the love go?” Read the rest of this entry

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Communication Really is the Key to Saving a Marriage (or Keeping Yours Strong)

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I have come to believe that great communication or the lack of it is one of the most important factors in whether or not a marriage will survive and even in saving a marriage. Yes, trust is also at the top of the list, however, over and over I’ve seen where trust is broken after communication starts breaking down. Let me give you a real-world scenario:

Mary loves her new husband, Bob, with all her heart. Yes, it bothers her a little bit when Bob drops his dirty socks on the bedroom floor, but she doesn’t say anything — she doesn’t want something insignificant to cause a rift in their otherwise great relationship.

Fast-forward 13 years. Read the rest of this entry

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Save Marriage Tips – Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Partner

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Although fixing marriages takes a lot of time and effort, effective
save marriage tips can make things a lot easier for you. Instead of rushing things and acting based on your emotions, you have to try out effective remedies that can save your marriage before everything is too late.

Give him some space

If you and your partner are constantly shouting at each other for the smallest things, you may need to try giving your partner a little space. This kind of set-up will make you and your partner realize the mistake of taking each other for granted. It will make you appreciate the value of having your partner right by your side every time you are experiencing problems in your life. Read the rest of this entry

The Eight Top Tips to Save Marriage from Disaster

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If you feel your marriage is failing the chances are you’re not communicating with your partner, or your communication is in the form of continuous arguments.

The reasons for the disintegration of a marriage are varied, but there are things you can do to try to solve the problems that have gradually made the partnership a miserable one.

  • Talk to each other. Ask each other what they dislike about things in the marriage and see how they can be resolved. Discuss problems sensibly and try to solve them together. Talk and most of all listen. You may not like what you hear, but if you’re open with each other, you’re on the first step to solving the problems. Read the rest of this entry

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Retreat to Save Your Marriage

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It is normal for married couples to start feeling a little bored after years of being married. Infatuation normally passes or fades as the couple starts to face the responsibilities of building a home and raising children. As you spend each day with your spouse, you learn little things about him or her that you might find annoying or even start to resent. The level of intimacy might be decreased as the two of you live each day in the same routine.

Save your marriage from total collapse by spending exclusive time for your partner. If you have just suffered heartbreak after finding out that your spouse carried an affair, it would also be a good idea to go on a retreat. Plan a getaway if you think that your marriage is getting cold, or your sex life is getting stale, or that appreciation is no longer extended, or simply because of boredom.

There are various reasons why you should need to save a marriage as stated above. Going on a retreat with your spouse is a good way to try and repair betrayed trust, reopen communication lines, or simply forge stronger bonds and communicate. Boredom, which brings about feelings of alienation and the lack of affection could be resolved if you and your partner spend some time away.

If you are seriously considering getting a divorce after years of boredom, you owe it to your partner and your children to try and save your marriage before calling it quits. Divorce should be your last resort.

If you are going on retreat to save a marriage, plan it ahead of schedule. Beach resorts or anywhere close to nature would offer a good atmosphere to talk things out with your spouse. Choose someplace serene and peaceful. You could even go back to where you spent your honeymoon to revive memories of your young love.

If you are recovering from an affair-stricken marriage, you and your partner need a quiet place to talk alone. You will be surprised to find out that both of you will be more reasonable if you talk somewhere far away from home.

A retreat is simply a good way to spend some quality time with your partner. You could try out doing things the two of you have not done before. Sing to your spouse, give each other massages, make love as if you were newlyweds, or just hold each other tight. You might even learn new things about your husband or wife that you did not know despite years of being together. It would work best of both of you are willing to save your marriage.

A romantic getaway is a good opportunity to assess yourself as a partner as well. Reflect on your ideals as to what a good spouse should be and weigh whether you are coming up to your own standards. In your retreat, take the time to apologize to your partner for your shortcomings and make it sincere. If you have been hurt, do not expect to be able to forgive right away. But going on a retreat is a good way to start assessing whether your partner deserves a second chance.

Marriage: Learning To Love

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My daughter was recently in her school’s performance of Fiddler On TheRoof. She was one of the daughters. If you don’t know the story, it focuses on the changing culture of marriage, from one where the marriage is arrainged by family and community to one based on mutual attraction.

In one of the songs, the main character asks his wife if she loves him. She replies that for 25 years, she has shared his bed, made his meals, tended his house, raised his children — so what kind of question is that? The point is that in their relationship, love wasn’t even a question or consideration. But after some back-and-forth, they decide that, indeed, they love each other.

This led me to think about what I know about marriage. And here is what I think about the question of love and marriage: we fall in love to get together, then spend the rest of our lives learning to love the other.

You see, the initial attraction is really about “I.” “I” feel a certain way, so I know I am “in love.” But that part of the relationship is driven by my need to feel that way, my need to be with the other person, my need to have my needs met. My needs are fueled by my desire to feel the intense emotion of “being in love.”

But in reality, love is a verb, something I do for the other. So, it takes the rest of my life to learn how to attend to my spouse’s needs. From my desire to be with my spouse comes my desire to meet my spouse’s love needs.

We are “fooled” into commitment by the overwhelming feeling of attraction, and then we have to put forth effort to create a sustained relationship. I say “fooled” because our culture has us believing that this love is the foundation of a relationship. It is not. It is merely a temporary starting point. It is not the destination. It is just a part of the journey to a lifetime relationship.

Those intense feelings will calm over time. The overwhelming need to be with someone that marks the infatuation portion of a relationship is not sustainable on its own. It’s like placing a flame in a bottle. Eventually, the flame will burn all the oxygen in the bottle and be extinguished.

So, there has to be some “fueling of the fire.” This is “love,” the verb. When I act in loving ways, I fuel the fire and keep it burning. If I stop tending to the other’s needs because I don’t feel that infatuation, the relationship will slowly (or not so slowly) die away.

When we continue to believe that “love” (infatuation) is the heart of a relationship, when that feeling is gone, we believe we are no longer in love. That is not the case; we have just failed to fuel the fire.

Reality TV has proven that any two people, given the right circumstances and settings, can fall into love (chemistry of infatuation). But story after story shows that it is harder to make the switch to “true love” that comes from action. Choose action, and don’t be fooled by chemistry.

By acting on love, by making love a verb and not an emotion, we keep the emotional fire stoked. And that is the great irony: if we depend on the feeling of being in love to keep us together, it will fail. But if we set that aside and focus on being loving, the feeling of being in love is sustained. Mature love is a verb, not an emotion.